Missing out in Vietnam

We only stayed 3 weeks in Vietnam. Too short to visit the entire country of almost 2000km long. And while we were missing out on a lot, we really enjoyed Vietnam!

– enjoying a friendly Banh Mi on the side of the road in Vietnam –

Missing the end of year at home.

December is a typical month to be at home. Preparing gifts, decorating your home, spending Christmas with family and New Year’s eve with friends, and having a few days off and enjoy being cosy at home. Ooh yes, sometimes I do miss just being at home.

We thought we would not be confronted with Christmas atmosphere too much in Vietnam, but that was wrong. There are many Catholics in southern Vietnam, many churches (a few are still in construction), hence a lot of Christmas atmosphere. In many coffee bars and restaurants you would hear nothing but Christmas music and the shops were full of red Christmas outfits.

– church with vietnamese Christmas decoration –

We – kind of – celebrated by going to a western restaurant and a video chat with the family. We also sent a package of souvenirs back home, making ourselves a little present at the celebrations in Belgium.

– as close as it gets to my mom’s traditional stuffed turkey: chicken with mushrooms and a bottle of red wine

New Year’s eve was a little different. We enjoyed the visit of friends from Belgium, thinking we’d celebrate together on a sunny beach, but ended up in a rainy city and a bar full of tourists, wearing a rain coat and wet Teva’s. Seems the Vietnamese don’t celebrate the same New Year as we do. And life just went on like any other day on January 1st.

While we missed some aspects of the end-of-year celebrations in Belgium, we also enjoyed a lot to watch and learn how it’s done (or not) on the other side of the world. While we go crazy on gifts, fireworks, fancy outfits and indigestions, other people apparently don’t have that same need or tradition. It’s making you rethink your own traditions and what you truly value about them.

Missing out on many touristic highlights.

We made a strange tour through Vietnam, missing out on many highlights such as the Mekong delta, Saigon, Ha Long Bay and Sa Pa, that are definitely in the Top 10 places to visit according to Lonely Planet, Rough Guide ànd Trip Advisor. We just didn’t manage to cover the huge distances in between (too long to cycle, and after one more bus experience in Vietnam, we’re still not fond of putting our bicycles on a bus) and encountered our first wave of bad weather (cycling in the rain is really only fun for an hour or so and with a guaranteed hot shower afterwards).

– cycling in the rain on the Ho Chi Min road –

While we could have sobbed about missing out on some of the prettiest places on earth, we still enjoyed Vietnam a lot, really! By experiencing other typical vietnamese specialties: The coffee/hammock culture along the side of the road. The many wedding celebrations we passed by. The friendliness and outgoing character of the Vietnamese (sidenote: in touristic areas as Nha Trang and Mui Ne we found them rather rude), the loud home karaoke’s on Sunday afternoon, the amazing coastline with huge sand dunes (often deserted or at times full of development – making us wonder how it will be like in 10 years), the beautiful misty mountains on the quiet Ho Chi Minh road in the west, …

– weddings on the side of the road. One day we saw over 15! A lot of love here in Vietnam –

– the rough coastline and fishery village of Vin Hy –

All of these can hardly be put in pictures, and sometimes it’s annoying that we can’t share the beauty of those experiences. But the good side of that is, that nobody can, and so we’re collecting real new impressions! And it didn’t feel at all like we were missing out on a lot.

Missing out is fine.

No FOMO (fear of missing out) for us in Vietnam. You can keep thinking about/watching to what you are missing. Or you can look at what is present and available, and appreciate that. In Vietnam we decided for ourselves to do the latter. It can be pretty, surprising, joyfull, but sometimes also ugly, boring or even emotional… But we have always found it very real, very vietnamese and very interesting.

– Hoi An is a very cute town full of lanterns ànd full of tourists (traps) –

One thought on “Missing out in Vietnam

  1. Hallo Iris and Dave,
    After reading your( letters?) mails, I can’t but answer in English too. It’ s the first time I try to write a comment and I hope it will succeed… Of course I wish both of you another exceptional year, which will always remain with you ! I think you are doing very well and thanks for letting us share your experiences ! I’m always eager to read about your adventures. On 24 February we’re meeting with the family De Herdt, and, although you will not be there, you will be the talk of the place !!!
    Big hug to both of you from aunty Hilde !


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